Sunday, November 30, 2008

A Gobble, Gobble Here and a Gobble, Gobble There!

We may be in Belgium (where Thanksgiving is clearly not a national holiday and fresh turkeys and pumpkin is nearly impossible to find), but that being said we certainly enjoyed a lot of turkeys and pumpkin pie over the past few days!!!
We gathered for a late feast with our American Expat Friends on Thursday. It was fun to pack Connor up in her PJs and pop her in her stroller and walk in the night to the lovely neighborhood of Sablon for the meal, served up with love by our hosts, Matt and Julia Spencer. Connor was the perfect baby as she nestled in and slept peacefully in their bedroom while we partied on.

Then on Saturday we hosted the crowd for Thanksgiving #2 at our home. But since we were unable to find a large turkey, we ended up making TWO small turkeys to feed the group. I have done enough turkey basting for one year! We certainly missed being with our families in North Carolina, but we are very thankful for our new friends and their generosity and fellowship. It helped make the holiday yummy and festive!


We also have a HUGE Christmas market/carnival surrounding our apartment, called "Plaisirs d'Hiver" Our expat crowd enjoyed checking out the booths and rides, while Connor really loved the antique carousels! There was even a big tree and light show in the Grand Place. Brussels has caught the Christmas spirit with street lights, piped music, and mulled wine. Kirk even saw a Sinterklaas (St. Nick in Belgium) in the GB grocery store singing to Frank Sinatra carols and all alone waiting for children?!?! How odd!

And today we went to a new church to ring in the first week of Advent. It was familiar and comforting to sing Christmas carols and to renew and remind ourselves of the reason for the season. Everyone was very friendly and welcoming - so I think we have a new church home. After church we drove 40 minutes to the lovely town of Antwerp for lunch and to poke around. We ate at a charming Irish pub and Connor had fun running around the booth and watching the "Buses" and "Choo-Choos" out the window at the Grote Market square. She left tons of fingerprints on the glass, but oh well - that is part of toddler fun!
This week has also been a breakthru week for Connor and I to find activities to fill out our new life in Brussels. We stumbled upon a great playground we can walk to from our house in the Parc du Bruxelles - equipped with swings and slides, Connor's favorites! The first day we found it there was another mom with an 18 month old girl from Poland. Her husband is a diplomat at the EU Parliament and we managed to communicate through broken English and French that we would have to meet up here at the park again and again. The girls enjoyed each other, despite the cold. Connor and I also joined a French music class called "La Chaise Musicale" on Friday mornings. It is a program of nursery rhymes and songs all in French with a group of English-speaking moms and toddlers. I definitely felt like this was the epitome of "stay-at-home-momhood" (WAY different from my previous corporate working life), but I think it will be a fun way for us to learn more French and connect with other kids and moms. The other moms invited us to join them for "un cafe" after the class, which was so inviting and welcoming.

My favorite memories of the week include:

- Just walking around the Grand Place area as preparations for the Christmas market were underway. Connor and I found the cutest street trio of musicians that we stopped and danced to. They were three elderly Italian guys who were kinda scruffy but they were so peppy and cheerful with their "Ooo-Paahs" and "Bravos" and their accordion and trumpets and songs that we couldn't help but to be drawn into the fun. Connor clapped and danced and for the first time in my entire life, I felt compelled to give money to street artists. I would never have taken the time and interest in my previous life to do this.

- Connor has several new words: "couch" - "bah-bah" for Belly Button - and she knows the turkey goes "Gobble, Gobble" which she will tell you several octaves higher than her normal voice. She speaks so many new words everyday, but these are my favorites. Connor will bring a book to you pronouncing "Read this, Read this, Read this" on and on until you read it to her. Also, this is the view from our living room windows - see all the birds resting on the ledge? Connor LOVES all the birds. They flock and fly all around and Connor runs from window to window shouting out "birds, birds, birds"!!!!


- Enjoying time just the three of us. We have had a grand time with brand new friends this week, but we also got to spend some good time together. When you are in a foreign land you learn to rely on and draw strength from each other so much more than in an environment of comfort. Kirk and I have always had a strong bond and connection, but this challenge has strengthened and renewed it and brought Connor into the fold.

We rejoice in welcoming the Christmas season! --- Reid

Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Celery, Celery, Celery

Life is starting to "come alive" now. After several valuable leads from a fellow Atlanta expat who has since returned to the USA we are now signed up for a weekly music class among other valuable resources and connections on "all things toddler" - thank you Shannon! And just in the nick of time too for our budding songstress. Connor makes me smile from ear to ear during breakfast every morning. I turn on my iTunes on our computer and Connor immediately starts singing along (literally!) with the songs and then claps her hands and says 'YAY, YAY!' a the end of the song. Her 'la, la, las' are literally the sweetest I have heard and it brightens my morning daily! Look out Barbara Streisand!

I am trying to put my ALL into finding good learning activities for Connor as a stay-at-home-mom amidst the chaos of learning and functioning in a new European city. Yesterday the activity was walking/running/skipping atop a piece of bubble wrap and hearing and feeling the pop pops. We had fun! I could make a lot more "pops" than Connor when skampering across as weight is key to this game. Also yesterday I gave Connor a piece of celery (leftover from turkey making last week). She immediately started chanting "celery, celery, celery" - always 3 times back to back and very fast - and she loves gnawing on either end. She talks about "celery, celery, celery" nonstop now. Go figure!



Kirk came home early, which was a wonderful surprise. His training finished up in the afternoon. We jumped in the car and traveled to the Atomium to play. It was too cold to stay outdoors for long so we went to the top of the massive atom-like structure built for the Expo '58, the Brussels World Fair. We walked around and saw the sun set over our new city and enjoyed a hot chocolate at the cafe on top. When we were back in the car driving home, Kirk looked at me and just said to me, "You know, we have a lot of fun together, don't we?" I couldn't have summed it up any better. It was a perfect spontaneous afternoon of fun.

Then tonight - another priceless memory. If only I had had a video camera. The three of us had to report to the police station tonight to complete our official "registration" to live in Brussels. Guess this is part of the fun of it all - the police need to know who you are and where you live. We were waiting in line (of course) for our appointment with the inspector. Out of nowhere Connor just busts out laughing while sitting in her stroller. I don't mean a giggle, but a deep belly laugh - waves upon waves of it until she was crying from the laughter. Peels upon peels of gleeful, innocent, toddler shrieks. Who knows what is was that she was thinking that tickled her so, but it was so intense that no one could ignore it! A bunch of stoic adults waiting blase at the police station and then Connor's laughter piercing the formality. There was not a straight face in the crowd by the time the laughter passed.

Then when we made it back for our "appointment" with the police inspector we were concentrating on saying and answering everything correctly despite the language barrier to be legal. All of a sudden Connor starts pointing and saying loudly "Stars! Stars!" - she was pointing at the policeman's chest where he was displaying his police badge that did indeed have stars on it. We all looked at her and I said "etoiles" (french for stars) and we all smiled then got on with business. But indeed Connor knows the word for stars and in context, no doubt. Thank you Connor for these irreplaceable moments!

Click here for Atomium photos and playing around the apartment (full album)

Sunday, November 23, 2008

A Winter Wonderland!

It is literally DUMPING snow everywhere right now. Kirk, Connor and I are nestled in tight and enjoying the cold, wet, white blanket on this cozy Sunday afternoon. Our apartment is slowly but surely coming together. We have put all the IKEA furniture together - piece by piece - and managed to get all the boxes out of our home. Hooray! Still some organizing, but it feels a lot more like home and we are happy.



This week we had to make our Thanksgiving turkey 1 week early since the one we bought wouldn't fit in our freezer no matter how we tried to force it in between these teeny European freezer shelves - so if you can't freeze it, cook it! August Hammonds, another EY expat came over to enjoy the feast and I managed to survive my very first turkey preparation. Please do tell me what this knob translates to in Farenheit?!?! Definitely a challenge cooking in the small, celsius oven!








Yesterday we took a day trip into Luxembourg. Yet we never made it to Luxembourg City because the snow slowed us down a lot. So instead we went to a postcard town called Vianden in Luxembourg and then over to Trier, Germany - a city of ancient Roman ruins and the oldest Christian church in Germany. We will have to return to Luxembourg City and the Moselle Valley (to taste Reisling wines!) another time.







Amidst the glamour of Europe, perhaps the things I will remember most are the ways Connor is embracing it all and developing the midst of this transition. She has learned to show you "one" when you ask how old she is, she has a handful of new words and sounds everyday (including 'Bonjour' and 'Au revoir', and she has learned to give Eskimo kisses and walks towards us wagging her head to move in and rub noses. The time with her is quite an awesome gift!
--- Reid

Tuesday, November 18, 2008

Healthcare Abroad

Connor and I had quite an adventure today - our first day on public transportation and our first taste of European healthcare. I found an English-speaking pediatrician through the American Women's Club of Brussels recommendation and established this "get-to-know-you" appointment for today last week. As "luck" would have it Connor came down with her first ever temperature (103 degrees) last night. She must have wanted to be sure we got our money's worth today. She is fine but fighting some virus, so all is ok.

We caught the tram and bus connection to get to our new pediatrician's office - it was about an hour commute. When we got there I was surprised that this was also his personal home! But apparently that is typical here. Dr. Alexander shares his home/practice with his wife who is a GYN (good to know - two for one!) I rang their doorbell and Dr. Alexander himself buzzed me in. He had also been the one to answer the phone and make our appointment personally when I called. Worlds away from Emory! He had no nurse but came and retrieved us one by one from the "waiting room." We went into his office with an exam table - all in one. He wrote our info down on a little notebook and he was very kind and patient. He did answer the phone and doorbell during our appointment which was rather unique! We still have a few vaccines ahead of us and to get those he wrote a prescription for them for the future and I am to pick up from the pharmacy ahead of time and bring to him to administer. He also handwrote our receipt for us to file insurance claim and took our cash only to pay for the visit and put in his wallet. How different!

After the visit it was an adventurous rush hour commute with us being stuffed on the tram and buses like sardines. But Connor smiled at the other children and was pretty good - especially given that she is under the weather. And our fellow passengers all helped me with getting umbrella stroller and baby up stairs and through the mobs. When we successfully made it home I was sure to lavish a lot of TLC for my ailing little one.

Between the doctor and finally figuring out this crazy trash collection schedule and getting the cardboard boxes out of home (at long last!) we are in business. You wouldn't believe all that goes into sorting and placing garbage out appropriately to avoid fines.

Monday, November 17, 2008

Settling In!


So we have arrived in Brussels (toting NINE checked bags, not to mention the stroller and other carry ons!) and are finally connected to the internet in our apartment after 2 weeks!!! Hooray. Up to this point we have had to take turns at night going down the block to the McDonalds with free WiFi after Connor goes to sleep at night! But thank goodness for the McDonalds - not only for free internet but an indoor playground and a Ronald McDonald to boot. Connor likes those! Mom does too on rainy days!

It has been a busy time since arriving. We rented an unfurnished apartment right in the center of town - you can literally see the "Grande Place" from our street! It is a great place with easy access to public transport and markets and it has a lot of European charm. We decided that if we rented an unfurnished apartment and furnished it ourselves with IKEA furniture that it would come out about even cost-wise over the 18 months - and would give us a chance to personalize it and babyproof it the way we wanted versus a prefurnished apartment. Now that we are a million IKEA boxes into this endeavor and our arms ache from putting together so much furniture (bed, couch, dining table, lights!) we are still happy with our decision - but definitely underestimated the task. Things are getting set up and homey slowly but surely!

We have already made a big trip to Portugal. Kirk had a 4 day holiday weekend right off the bat (Belgian Armistice Day) so we decided we shouldn't let that time go to waste. Portugal was amazing - great weather and a perfect escape from the boxes and moving exhaustion! We went to Lisbon, Sintra (an enchanting fairy tale town of palaces and forests) and Oporto (the home of Port wine). We also rented a car and went to Santiago de Compostela in Spain to see the famous church that so many pilgrims have come to - this is considered the third largest Christian city, next to Rome and Jeruselum - but it was a quaint college town. We had fun marveling at Portugeuse tiles, tasting port wine and also finding every playground in Portugal for Connor to enjoy!







More to come, but enjoy our blog! --- Reid

Tuesday, October 7, 2008

Getting Started

Click here for photos of Kirk's temporary apartment

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Click here for photos of OUR APARTMENT - FOUND!

The Belgian rental process is very interesting. Apparently, if you want to rent a furnished apartment, there are no restrictions on the timing of your lease - you can rent for 10 months or 10 years. However, if you want to rent an unfurnished apartment, you must either sign a binding three year lease, or a non-binding NINE year lease! Who rents a place for nine years?! The caveat to that is that if you break a nine year lease in the first three years, you owe a penalty of 3 months rent if you break the lease in the first year, two months rent in the second year, and 1 months rent in the third year. Good thing our landlords are Greek and don't buy into this commitment. So no binding penalty with our place given 18 months - lucky us!

The second interesting thing that I've learned so far is about the rental deposit. Whereas we are accustomed to giving our landlord an upfront payment of one month's rent to let the landlord hold for the duration of the lease, that is not done in Belgium. Instead, the deposit is two or three months rent, but you don' t give it to the landlord. You can either have a bank provide a deposit guarantee for the amount needed (which of course incurs a setup fee and a maintenance charge) or you can deposit the amount needed into what is essentially a trust account. Neither you nor the landlord can access these funds without permission from the other party, but at least you earn interest on it, so that should be good for a few extra bucks, right?

Anyway, I'm sure there will be more interesting tales to be told along the way. --- Kirk

Monday, September 29, 2008

The first travels...Oktoberfest 2008

Well, I'm on the train now on the way back to Brussels from Munich where I had a great weekend! Before heading to Germany, I had a meeting in the office with my new Coke team in Brussels. It was great to meet everybody and have a brief introduction to the office before I officially start next week. Based on the meeting, the work that I will be doing does not seem to be very different than what I've done in Atlanta. I felt like I was able to contribute right away and I think they are looking forward to having someone on the team who has worked in the headquarters location. The team that I'm working with seem to be very nice. After the meeting, they asked me to join them for dinner because they were going out to celebrate the end of the 2007 audit, so I definitely lucked into arriving on the right date! The dinner was at a really nice, small Italian restaurant called Di Bimmi (I think that's right at least) in a neighborhood called Woluwe. Since most of Brussels is populated by French speakers, all of the wait staff spoke French. However, all of the team that I work with are native Flemish speakers. I was amazed at how well they could converse with the wait staff in French, talk amongst themselves in Flemish and then involve me in the conversations in English. It was very nice to get to have a social outing with my co-workers before we start officially working together in the next few weeks.

On Friday morning, I left my apartment around 5:45 to catch my 7:00 train to Munich via Frankfurt. My train was very uneventful traveling through the countryside of Belgium and Germany. I look forward to exploring some of the less well-known cities that we traveled through like Liege, Cologne, and Aachen. I arrived in Munich around 2:00 and found my hotel directly across the street from the station when I walked out. A partner in Frankfurt, who is originally from Chicago and is friends with some of my friends who just returned from three years in Belgium/Germany, made most of my arrangements for the weekend. I guess it is a multi-year tradition for him to go to Oktoberfest, so he makes all of these arrangements way in advance and then figures that he'll find people to join him for the festivities. I'm definitely very lucky to have some good connections! The hotel was really nice. Once I got settled in, I decided to spend the afternoon walking to the glockenspiel and marienplatz. The glockenspiel is basically a big cuckoo clock in a building on Munich's main square.

My main goal for Friday afternoon, though, was to obtain lederhosen so that I could truly get into the spirit of Oktoberfest. I had been told that there was no requirement to wear the traditional Bavarian outfit during the festivities, but when you are just walking through the street you see about 10% of the people wearing either lederhosen (guys) or a dirndl dress (girls). When I went into the department store to see what was available, I was still a little unsure what, if anything I was going to buy. However, when I got to the lederhosen section, it was a madhouse. Everybody was in there tearing through the racks, looking for an outfit. I figured that if all these people were looking for the same thing that when I went to the Oktoberfest festivities, I wouldn't want to be left out! The traditional lederhosen outfit is a pair of leather shorts, capri pants, or long pants with suspenders over a long button-down shirt. The shirts can either be white pullover shirts with four or five buttons or a colored check print, normally in blue or red. To complete the outfit, you can get some heather-colored socks that you pull up to your calf or knees and a leather vest. It took some time to find what I needed because not only have I never purchased leather pants before (surprise, surprise, huh?) but everything was in German and their sizes are different than ours. The whole outfit was definitely not cheap, but I figured that if this was a once in a lifetime experience that I'd like to do it right and I now have a Halloween costume as long as my outfit doesn't shrink! For your reference, the dirndl dress is a knee-length dress with lots of patterns, a fitted bodice, and white ruffled shirt underneath.


After my lederhosen procurement run, I headed back to the hotel to get ready for dinner with some E&Y friends. The partner who arranged my hotel also reserved three tables (for 8-10 people per table) at the Lowenbrau brewery where they were having a big post-Oktoberfest dinner and party. It was only about five blocks from my hotel so I walked up there and arrived shortly before 7:00. In total, there were probably 75-100 tables setup in this large hall with a stage on one end and a balcony that looked to be somewhat of a VIP section. There was also a band playing throughout the night. I guess my impression was that most of these bands would basically play oom-pah music all night long, but it wasn't like that. They certainly played a number of traditional Bavarian songs, but they also played a lot of modern music. One of their favorite songs to play was Country Road by John Denver. That is apparently the American national anthem in Munich. And about every other song, they play this toasting song where everyone stands up on their bench (or table depending on how full the benches are) and everyone sings along. I still don't know exactly what I was singing, but after hearing it one or two times, you figure out what you are supposed to do. It was definitely a lot of fun and a good way to get introduced to Oktoberfest. During the night at the table next to us, a few hours into the night, five or six guys were standing on their bench singing and toasting when suddenly the bench snapped in half and they all tumbled to the floor.

Saturday morning, I woke up, got breakfast and I had planned to meet August and Michelle at the Schottenhamel tent at 10:30 because we had been told that if we weren't in the tent before 12:00 that the lines would be very long. The way Oktoberfest tents work is that you reserve a table for 8-10 people. There are some days where it is not as busy and the tents are basically general admission. However, Saturday was probably the biggest day at Oktoberfest. Most of the tables on Saturday were reserved, but it appeared that there were a number in the center of the tent that were general admission. It does not cost anything to get into the tent, but you have to have a ticket to sit at one of the reserved tables and a ticket is basically a voucher for two drinks and a meal. Oktoberfest is situated on the Thereseinweisse fairgrounds and it is very similar to the North Carolina state fair (think midway games, roller coasters, agricultural exhibits, etc.) and then tacked onto all of that are 12-16 gigantic tents where people eat, drink, and dance to Bavarian-inspired music all day. Each tent is basically sponsored by a family and serves a specific brand of beer. Several of the tents are sponsored by beer manufacturers (so there is a Lowenbrau tent, a Hofbrau tent, and a Spaten tent). Our tent (Schottenhamel) was sponsored by a family that doesn't have a brand of beer, so they served Spaten. To open Oktoberfest, the mayor of Munich always leads a procession to the Schottenhamel tent and they tap the first keg there. No one is allowed to serve at any of the tents until that is done. Each tent has its own personality in terms of the age of the people in the tent and how rowdy they can be. I don't know all of the different personalities, but I was told that our people like Schottenhamel because it has a good mix of party atmosphere, but is a little more relaxed than some of the others. It's hard to show the size of these tents, but if our dinner on Friday had 75-100 tables, this tent probably had somewhere between 400-600 tables. It was probably as long as a football field and maybe twenty yards wider.

I arrived at the Schottenhamel tent around 10:30 on Saturday expecting to find August and Michelle in order to figure out how to get into our tent. There were thousands of people already milling about and it was a madhouse around the tents. I circled the tent 3 or 4 times, but never saw them. Surrounding the tent, they have probably another 100-200 picnic tables setup for people to use, which were already full. I could also hear loud singing from inside the tent, so I got a little nervous that I had missed out. It was difficult to figure out where we were supposed to go to get in. After looking for them for 30 minutes I decided that I should just try to get in the building through the line that seemed to be moving. After waiting there for 10 minutes, I finally spotted August and Michelle. We got back in the line and after 15 minutes, we got to the door and apparently all that we needed to do was to tell them the name on our table reservation. The guy at the door had no list, so we could have probably told him we were at the Willy Wonka table and he would have let us in.

We found our contact (Aaron Krabill, a senior manager in Detroit - I think he recently returned to the US from Munich) and he showed us to our table. There were two E&Y tables where he was sitting. We had a lot of expat EY people sitting at our tables and there were also a lot of "friends of EY" who were sitting with us so it was hard to keep everyone straight. Basically from 11am to 11pm we sat at the tables, ate food, drank beer, talked to each other, stood on the benches and sang the toasting song (same one as on Friday night), watched some of the craziness going on in other parts of the tent, and generally just had a good time. It was an amazing sight to witness. The worst part was that there were no restrictions on smoking, so although there was not much smoking in our group, the tent was filled with it, so you couldn't really escape it. I was stunned at how many children were there (and how young some of them were that were drinking)! I saw one child who was probably no more than 12 months old. There were a lot of children in the 7-11 year old range and I definitely saw several pre-teens with full beers in their hands. This is such an integral part of their culture!

It was cool to meet so many people from the US who are in the same situation as us and to share our experiences. Toward the end of the night, our area started milling more with local Germans so it was interesting interacting with them. They did initiate some political discussions, but I was impressed at how civil the conversation stayed despite differing viewpoints and the large quantities of beer consumed to that point. The tents shut down promptly at 11.

This morning I woke up and it looked to be a pretty gray day so I took my time getting ready. Around 11:30, the sun started coming out, so I headed down to the Theresienwiese fairgrounds to take some more pictures. Surprisingly, the boardwalks and walkways were packed again on a Sunday morning! However, the tents were much more subdued and you could actually walk right into any of them, so I did that just to check out some of the other ones. When I arrived, all of the tents had horse drawn carriages filled with beer kegs sitting outside their tent, so that was sort of neat to see and then there was a procession of bands representing each tent that started around noon. I don't know what the purpose or significance was, but it was interesting.

After getting some lunch at a carnival stand (I figured I had to get a sausage since I was in Germany), I headed back toward the center of town and walked through two big cathedrals - St. Paul's and Frauenkirche, which is the cathedral where Pope Benedict preached (I guess that's not the right term for a Catholic church, but that is the best I can come up with!) in the late 70s/early 80s.

All in all it was a great weekend. I'm really glad that I was able to get the full Oktoberfest experience. It is always interesting to experience an event that gives you the essence of a country. I'd say it's sort of like being in Washington, DC for 4th of July or attending the Last Night of the Proms in London. I also really enjoyed getting to know more of my fellow EY expats. It is amazing that no matter how different we are, there is a strong bond when we have the EY expat connection. I hope that we get more opportunities to get to know these folks. I know August and Michelle were saying that the people they started the global exchange program with were initially gung-ho about keeping in touch, but then it basically fizzled. One of my goals is to make sure that doesn't happen with our class or the people that we meet along the way. --- Kirk